Who doesn’t like talking about love? It’s one of the most popular topics among youth.
We like to read love stories and watch romantic movies.
We get amazed by how the lover treats his beloved and how deeply the couple loves each other.
Sometimes, these stories are unrealistic, sometimes exaggerated…
However, if we examine the life of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), we’d find it full of instances that we, most of the time, forget to look at and hardly follow.
We know how respectful he was towards women, and he usually ordered his companions to treat women with respect and kindness. He led by example when he said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” (Ibn Majah).
So, let’s look at how Prophet Muhammad showed his wives love and tender care.
Here are some tips from the Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace be upon him):
1- Express Your Love in Different Ways
His love for Aisha was immense. In one narration, Aisha said: “The Messenger of Allah used to divide his time equally and said: O Allah, this is my division concerning what I control, so do not blame me concerning what You control and I do not.” (Abu Dawud)
One day, the Prophet’s companion, Amr ibn Al-As, said: “I came to the Prophet and said, “Which people do you love most?”
He replied, “Aisha“. I said, “From amongst the men?” He replied, “Her father, (Abu Bakr).”
Aisha said: “The Messenger of Allah used to put his mouth on the place where I had drunk from, and he would drink from what was leftover by me while I was menstruating.” (An-Nasa’i)
2- Feed Her
How easy it is for Muslims to gain rewards! Just by smiling at your wife or putting a morsel in her mouth, you get a reward. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake, even if it were a morsel that you put in your wife’s mouth.” (Al Bukhari)
3- Play with Her
How many times do you invite your spouse to go trekking or play a game? Imagine being the leader who used to have plenty of responsibilities but he could still find time to share a game with his wife.
Aisha narrated: “The Prophet raced with me, and I beat him.” (Ibn Majah)
4- Clean up for Her
What’s the first thing you do when you have an important meeting? Tidying up, using your favourite perfume… why not try these when you come home?
Shuraih bin Hani (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I asked ‘Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her): “What was the first thing that the Prophet would do when he entered his house?“
She replied, “He would use Miswak (a tooth-stick).” (Muslim)
5- Lean on Her Lap
Romantic lovers like to lean on each other’s shoulders or lap. Doing this brings a state of calmness and contentment.
Prophet Muhammad used to put his head on Aisha’s laps and recite the Qur’an.
Narrated by Aisha: “The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to lean on my lap and recite Quran while I was in menses.” (Al-Bukhari)
6- Help Her
Why is it difficult for many men to help their wives with house chores like cleaning, washing dishes, or fixing up the sink?
Spare some time to help fix something in the house or help with cleaning. The Prophet used to do so.
Al-Aswad said: “I asked ‘A’isha, may Allah be pleased with her, “What did the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, do when he was with his family?“
She replied: “He would do chores for his family, and when it was time for the prayer, he would go out.”
7- Call Her by Her Beautiful Name
The Prophet used to call Aisha by her beautiful name. One day she asked the Prophet:
“O Messenger of Allah, what are the things that are not permissible to withhold?”
He said: “Water, salt, and fire.”
I said: “O Messenger of Allah, we know what water is, but what about salt and fire?”
He said: “O Humaira’, whoever gives fire (to another), it is as if he has given in charity all the food that is cooked on that fire. Whoever gives salt, it is as if he has given in charity all that the salt makes good.
And whoever gives a Muslim water to drink when water is available, it is as if he freed a slave; and whoever gives a Muslim water to drink when there is no water available, it is as if he brought him back to life.” (Ibn Majah)
